Are You A Debby Downer?

This may or may not be a little bit of a “vent sesh,” but hear me out…this is something I feel my readers should know about me and also know for themselves.  I am NOT a negative person, I try to look on the bright side of everything and I truly try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. However, with a passion, I can not stand the continuous moaning and complaining. Please cry me a river, build a bridge, and get over it already! You are not the only one having a hard day! You are not the only one who has bad things happen to them and you most certainly are not the center of the universe SO STOP ASKING EVERYONE FOR ATTENTION.

Let’s backtrack for a second, when I speak of these “constant complainers,” these are the Debby Downers and Negative Nancys in life. The ones who are annoyed that it’s too cold and wishes it was hot, but now it’s hot and they wish it was cold. The ones who take a sip of coffee from -who cares where you get coffee- and it’s not how you asked them to make it. Everything is always wrong, nothing ever goes right, and there is no way in the world you can possibly please these people.

If you are dealing with a Debby or Nancy, here are some things you may need to know…

  1. Just Listen and Let It GO:

Let’s all just listen to Elsa and LET IT GO (no, I do not have children and yes I have watched Frozen…a lot. She sings my theme song!) When in doubt, let it go in one ear and out the other. Do NOT let someone being so negative all the time get you down. You are better than the low that they stoop to.

  1. Surround Yourself With Like Minded People:

Slowly distance yourself away from these individuals and start to surround yourself with people who keep your spirits high and soaring. You want to always have people who are going to lift you up and push you to be the best person you can be.

  1. Break Time:

Being in a “friendship” that is mentally, emotionally, and even physically taking a toll on yourself is not healthy. When it comes to your body, you know what you can handle and it is not okay for someone to walk on top of your health. Take time to yourself and get into a better mind set, overall you will be a better friend for it as well.

  1. Talk To Your Debby and/or Nancy:

This may not be the easiest but I feel it’s necessary to let your friend know that they may need to try changing their point of view. Let them know, you know things may be hard for them, but when you think positive and when you put your mind in a positive setting, good things will happen! If they don’t want to change, then you tried and reread options 1-3 over and repeat as necessary, because it is healthier for you to be positive!

Positivity is a chain reaction. When I laugh, I want to make others laugh. When I smile, I want others to smile with me. So, do the world a favor…make someone’s day; give them a smile, tell them a joke, or even pass it forward and pay for someones coffee! Another one of my favorites is seeing a penny on the ground…BUT it’s NOT on heads…not great for me because heads is good luck…SO INSTEAD, I turn the penny over and let someone else find the heads up penny to make their day and wish them good luck!

To all the Debby Downers and Negative Nancys in the world, things will get better as long as your mind frame is able to see the good! Someone other than yourself is probably having a much worse day! So, put on your big girl/boy panties, EMBRACE THE SUCK and move on!

To anyone having a bad day, I wish you a better one and just remember this…

Positive thinking is not about expecting the best out of every situation, but instead accepting whatever happens, is the best for that moment. 🙂





  1. Kristine | 2nd Mar 17

    You last line in this post is PERFECT! Anytime I get in a bad mood, I try to remember that if I think happy & positive thoughts, my negativity will disappear… and it usually does!

    • Samantha Santoro | 3rd Mar 17

      Yay thats great! I do the same, try to think of a better way out of the situation like well at least the sun is shining lol!

  2. Allie | 3rd Mar 17

    Haha GET ‘EM girl! I think we all know people in our lives that are a Nancy or Debbie, but the trickiest part is how to deal with them. I love the idea of the break and I REALLY think talking to them is probably KEY, but how uncomfortable can those situations get? But then again, they actually might not know they’re always negative unless you can bring it up to them (in a nice way). Haha I love this!

    • Samantha Santoro | 3rd Mar 17

      haha thats seriously the hardest part is how to deal. there are some I will keep in my life and tell them in a nice way and some there where i have tried over and over again, those are the ones i have to let go. they are toxic and i can’t stand that in my life! haha so glad you like our funny faces! lol.

  3. Allie | 3rd Mar 17

    Also cute photoooo!

  4. Jenn wang | 3rd Mar 17

    Great advice on dealing with Debbies and also sending us reminders to avoid being Debbies ourselves. 😊


  5. Lauren Grace | 3rd Mar 17

    Such a good post! I always try to look on bright side and I too get SUPER annoyed with people who are negative nellies. This def helps for dealing with these types of people – thanks for posting!

  6. Carlie | 3rd Mar 17

    I loved this post! I feel like generally I’m a positive person but when I’m bummed i’m like WHY ISNT EVERYONE MAKING ME FEEL BETTER haha definitely needed this.

    • Samantha Santoro | 3rd Mar 17

      Thats awesome! So glad you loved it! I’m generally positive too and let me tell you I have my grumpy moments and thats when I’m like alright, go get out this funk!!! lol.

  7. the AITCH | 3rd Mar 17

    Oh goodness woman! This is speaking right at me. We’re so on the same wave length.. build a bridge and get over it is my theme!!!
    Your words are the truest! Xxx

    • Samantha Santoro | 3rd Mar 17

      hahaha this makes me unbelievably happy haha! love it! thanks! glad we have the same thought process. makes life so much easier when people understand your thoughts! lol!

  8. Bailie butcher | 4th Mar 17

    Loved this post! My thoughts exactly! I have to surround myself with positive people. I get super irritated with others who look at everything in a negative way.

  9. Charlotte | 5th Mar 17

    loved this post! really made me laugh thinking of all the nancy’s on a daily basis, I just switch off now whoops!

    thanks for sharing

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